Maybe It’s Not For Me.


I’m good at hiding. Squirreling away pieces of Dove dark chocolate and almond slivers and just disappearing into the edges of my covers. I’m good at slouching and wiling away hours binge-watching Narcos, Doctor Foster, and any number of documentaries on Netflix. I know I have somewhat of a penchant for writing, though probably not a gift. I’m good at finding a certain slant of light to photograph moments and memories. I’m an okay listener and a halfway decent friend on a good day, when the wind is just so.

What I’m quite sure of these days…is that I’m probably not the best teacher. Perhaps I shouldn’t teach anyone. I don’t know if it was the right decision to come to a predominantly white, Southern, private institution. I don’t know if I can ever overcome this sense of feeling so inadequate in a space I cannot ever call my own. I don’t know if the classroom can ever be called a home, especially when all attempts to speak out are silenced. Why is it that all modern teachers must be loud? “Work on your teacher voice.” My favorite instructors have been the ones who don’t scream in my ear, who earn my respect with wise words, not loud ones. “It’s just a first year teacher problem.” But…I’ve already worked a year. Also, I don’t think numbing yourself to the humanity of your students is a “solution” to whatever problem you’re imagining. Something about this whole process just feels wrong and contrived. Maybe this isn’t who I was meant to be all along.

All the courage and bluster I managed to conger up from idealism and 24-year-old hopes has dissolved in the well worn grooves of the school I work at and the university I attend. I feel less sure of myself and more aware of my faults. I feel like my faith has been tested, and I feel alone. The worst of it all is…none of this makes any of the education system better. Feeling badly about something, even voicing an opinion about it…will not change much with rampant stubbornness. One of my superiors said this week, “The system is not going to change for you.” Is the system going to change for anyone?

We are policing people of color in metro schools. I am a person of color who is forced into a surveillance role, and I have forsaken my creativity. I don’t believe engaging teaching should be neglected in pursuit of test prep, but what can I do in the position I am in? I have always felt like I had some sort of agency as a student, but the illusion is gone as an adult. The system rules in hierarchy and madness. It is measured in spoonfuls of coffee and administered daily. Why is it that I look forward to being alone these days instead of being in the classroom?

I have more questions than answers. I have more disillusionment than optimism. I don’t know what life looks like past this M. Ed., or if this too shall pass without a degree at all. I don’t know if I chose the right path, one where I teach ELA but barely have time to enjoy the pleasures of a good book. I feel like my soul has grown old. I don’t know if this will get better or if the gnawing, sinking feeling in my chest will sink into itself.

Growth mindset and grit are weapons of mass distraction, as a famous education professor so eloquently presented. I am measured by my weight in efficiency. I am not a naturally efficient person. I have always wandered in the garden or the greenhouse or the museum. I have never taken a straight path anywhere and prefer to explore rather than seek out. I believe it is a Western notion to cut through bluntly. It is not in my nature to splice and split and force. I do not know who I am when I yell and glare and punish.

This is not me. Students: I promise you this. My work will not punish you, I mean to nurture. My work will not put myself first. I will not complain about you to other teachers. I will treat you no less than another human being. I promise to care and to not value you against the point systems implemented against you.

I am tired. I think this vein of education is depressing. I grow weary of measuring life out in lunch breaks and stale coffee. I am tired of gossip and pseudo-mediating, negotiating over the best way to whitewash my statements.

Maybe this isn’t for me.


On ‘Letting It Go.’

This is an op-ed piece written to complement this post on LindyHopped (aka Swing of Things). 


Image courtesy of Cinemagraphs

I recently had the pleasure of reading this re-post from a dance partner, the very dance savvy Eddie Rutland. The post reads as follows:

“This generation is so intelligent. They care about racism, feminism, ableism, and that’s such a positive mentality, but they need to leave room for forgiveness,” she said. “Nobody is perfect and people are educating themselves at different paces. So be mindful.” -Halsey, singer/songwriter of The Badlands.

Yes, we should forgive, and be mindful of what it means to be from different backgrounds. Before this quote, Halsey also reportedly says, “I don’t speak for anything” and “I can’t speak for any experience but my own, and if people can relate to that, then that just goes to show how similar people are despite the diversity.” I have mixed feelings about Halsey’s statements. On one hand, as a marginalized person, do I even have a voice to forgive? Do I have a voice that people can here? Because I am not part white, are people more likely to typecast me, write me off, stereotype me, or interrupt me? I wonder about forgiveness in a society which limits agency of the Other, that undermines my and many other identities simply because we are. Yes, I want to reach the point of forgiveness but not until we’ve had an intense conversation about what it means to be privileged.

Whiteness and status lend agency. They lend privilege. Halsey recognizes she doesn’t speak “for anything,” yet by nature of her craft, she does. The fact that she fails to recognize her platform is a lens of the colorblind philosophy rampant in the “New Americana” she perceives. I bring up Critical Race Theory, the issue of “comfort” or perceived “safe space,” and intolerance masked in every U.S. subculture not because I’m a masochist (sometimes it feels like it), but because minorities are being silenced. When we say “just forgive” or “just get over it,” we are silencing people. What would have happened to the feminist waves and movements if people listened to “just forgive?”

I self-identify as a person of faith who loves Christ and God. I am aware that this marker immediately shuts people down because of how horribly the Church has failed with forgiveness, love, and tolerance. Christians are some of the most racist, mean, cunning people I know; God came to heal the sick, not the healthy. I do believe in the power of forgiveness, and I see that sometimes people equate forgetfulness with forgiveness. I don’t forget. I think that’s ridiculous, because even old wounds leave ugly scars. Sure, these wounds have healed, but I still run my fingers over the raised tissue. It’s a warning, to tread carefully. Telling a marginalized person to forgive is like telling people who have little to no agency to tolerate oppression. NO. I will bow my head to God alone. It IS oppression, however subtle and dismissive the comments manifest themselves. I see it in my classes. When friends, good friends, say things like, “Oh, well your opinion is wrong” or when they talk over me, “Well, I think you mean….” No. Hell no. Let me talk. Let me have my voice. Don’t FORGIVE when it is in your place, for once, to listen.

It is terrifying to me that so many people in the U.S. are ready to let it go. To quote the Fort Worth slam team in their spoken word “McKinney,”You people are too damn satisfied.” I do not write off forgiveness. I support listening to diverse opinions, and I want people not to shut down after hearing the affect behind counternarratives.

Before asking forgiveness from others, perhaps ask to forgive yourself. We all deal with privilege, and we all need to check our privilege. I am not “safe” either. I am biased towards students who have been bullied, harrassed, who are minorities. I must chide myself to remember the different facets of issues without denying agency.

On people who think I talk too much.  I am talking because I didn’t for 20 years (I was made aware of my race by age 4). On people who think I don’t “forgive” enough. I forgive you by telling you these things. If I didn’t care, like I didn’t for 20 years, I wouldn’t say a word.

It’s about time.



Bursting Seams

Originally written for Dr. Hundley’s Pop Lit class. Thought I would share. -Yue Yuan, copyright 2016. Do not take without reference or proper citation. Inquire author in comments.

The Arrival: What is your family story around immigration? Write a narrative of your family’s journey.

Burst Seams (of the American Dream)

Your mother and I, when we first go there, had only two pieces of luggage.

I hear this statement-story every time I head home to our family’s wannabe-Frank Lloyd Wright bungalow on the crossroads of {town} and ____-side Chicago, A____ neighborhood. My 爸 (bà), with much bravado and pseudo-humility, berates me with his first generation Chinese “coming to America” graduate school journey any time he can get a word in edge-wise. I heard it growing up whenever I asked for anything, including a pet. “You want a DOG? We were so poor when we came here, we lived like dogs! Your mother and I, when we first got here…” and so on. Every time I wanted art supplies or asked to quit piano or go to a non-school event extracurricular. “Do you know what your mother and I gave up to come here? When we first got here…”

When we first got here, we were poor. I was two and I still remember the ancient, sputtering Toyota, “holy” only in the sense of its threadbare seats and my parents’ reverent excitement about owning a vehicle, any vehicle really. I remember being part of Asian-American college or church communities in Kansas, Iowa, Maryland, Arkansas, Chicago… My first chosen family, though, was in Kansas. I remember Suzi most of all, especially as part of her “gang.” Suzi— a twelve-year-old demon who knew how to pander to adults but make any younger kid’s life a living mobster movie. She taught me my first cuss words, how to fight, and how to nurse a baby bird back to life. I thought she was awesome. Back then, life was all about comparison (“Why can’t you be more like Suzi? Look at how her hands are curved on the piano…”), and I understood what it meant to be raised by a village. At first glance, we lived in a cheap two bedroom, but in reality we conglomerated into three floors, three units, three families in one. Blue light deal at Kmart, as my 妈 (mā) would say. Xiaoxi, Suzi, and I wandered Apt. Q like we owned the place, excavating dead lizards in asbestos-infested, dusty corners and turning purple honeysuckle fields into other planets. It was heaven and hell in Manhattan, Kansas, a poor college town in the cornfields named after a famous metropolis. Paradox and borders and mix-ups, like all the others which define my life.

My mother and father came to the U.S. from country and city, 河南和北京。They refused to compromise on our culture, and I love them for that now. I regret every fit I threw about Chinese schools across the country, from BoPoMoFo alphabet soup in Kansas to the “General” Zhang 老师 in Fayetteville, Arkansas. I regret quitting for the last time junior year of high school in the UIC parking lot, seeing the empty tiredness of my  mother’s face.爸妈, 真的对不起您们。 I have searched for this Asian-American feeling in corners of the universe, in my Hong Kong University study abroad and a Taiwan Fulbright. I searched for the feeling of home in boy’s smiles and empty promises, in the catch of moonlight on Lan Kwai Fong rooftops, and again with B, hovering centimeters away watching the stars on a shoddy picnic bench in Luodong. It wasn’t all empty tiredness, but it was country and city, world’s end, and I was just beginning.

My parents gave my younger brother and I everything. Two poor graduate students came from China, worked 70 hours a week in their respective majors, earned their Ph.D. and MBA degrees, and hustled up the “good ‘ol U.S.A.” social ladder in record time. Well, it still took them and me 18 years to get naturalized citizenship, despite having countless work visas, student visas, and green cards.No citizenship when you choose the U.S. over China, did I mention that? So, as I was sworn in with my little U.S. flag pen, I felt like I betrayed my mother country. Turncoat, that’s what it feels like to be a hyphenated American some days.

My parents gave this country their youth, their love, their hope. What did they receive in return? Two spoiled children who eat Chipotle burrito bowls with chopsticks and Sriracha. Bigger houses, more devices, less family time. These days, when I head home, we are glued to black mirrors of iPads or iPhones. I long for the simple days of smelly rice vinegar kitchens and my mother’s cheapo “these-ingredients-were-left-over-from-the-lab” cheddar breads. I miss being poor but so close, so ready to be a team. We were a team. The American dream? It’s tearing apart the fabric that was…us.

I came to this city with two pieces of luggage, my dad, a car, and naïve hopes. Vanderbilt is the whitest place I have lived in since Arkansas, when I swore to myself I would never return to an area South of the Mason-Dixon line. My life can be measured in departures and arrivals, dim sum and skillet breakfasts, possibility and oppression. It takes everything inside me not to head to the tarmac runway when I hear, “But where are you from-from?” “But where are your parents from?” “Why don’t you just go home to China.” I want to kick somebody. I want to scream. I want to fucking punch someone. We are Chinese-American, but the two are but faux friends, smiling fu dogs who really want to tear each other’s throats out.

The nations inside our family want to kill each other. The identities inside me want to rip me apart.

The seams are bursting, and I don’t know if I can hold it all together any more.

Violence & Space

I wrote this for a Classroom Ecology discussion post. Just wanted to share it in this space as well. Dealing with some ish. -YY

As a minority growing up in several regions across the United States, I have never experienced a sense of safety in mixed race company. From the moment I set foot on American soil, I knew I was an Other, bound by my slanted eyes and yellow skin. By the time I was in third grade, my classmates had already begun making fun of my eye shape by pulling at their own lids and asking repeatedly why my English was so good. Due to my parent’s continued graduate studies and reliance on visas to continue living in the U.S., we moved several times, and I was always the new kid in public schools. I remember getting kicked in the stomach repeatedly by an older kid at a friend’s house and mocked on the bus rides home from Kingsville to Perryville in Maryland. I was never safe, not as a woman and definitely not as a minority. I feel as if I have lived the dilemma Leonardo and Porter (2010) discuss in regards to minorities feeling caught between “becoming visible” and “remaining silent” (140). As a young student, I had so much to say but I was so scared of tokenization or being pointed out yet again as a Chinese person.

Speaking from the margins, I have seen students complicit in their privilege and ability to ignore the topic of race. When I was part of a student campus-wide initiative for sensitivity training at UIUC on behalf of the Asian American Cultural Center (AACC), we spoke with the administrative body and organized a campus conversation. Many minority and international students testified with horrific stories about how white students had begun a hashtag trend called #tooethnic when they saw minorities in the local bars. Instead of acknowledging these voices, many white students REPEATEDLY told minorities, told us, that it was “just a joke,” that we were “taking things too seriously,” and that we were taking things “out of context.” I was astounded by the lack of awareness exhibited by these students. As Leonardo & Porter point out, a brave coalition of minority students “participating in public race dialogue makes them vulnerable to assaults on many fronts” (140). The white students who stepped up to the microphone were standing right next to the diverse student panel, yet they couldn’t see the individuals on the panel because these specific students felt their personal identity was under attack. How do you tell someone that the privileged life they grew up in is segregated and, quite honestly, racist? How do you get someone to acknowledge privilege when they don’t even see it yet? How do you address these topics as a minority student and teacher? Is a safe space even desirable?

In terms of the violent spaces discussed in Leonardo & Porter, I have only really experienced this ecology in three separate settings. One was an elective English course we dubbed “Feelings” class with Avi Lessing my senior year in high school. By creating an open space where we could argue and come to terms with each other but also voice our narratives, I finally found my own voice. After I “spoke my truth” for one class, every single student, regardless of SES, race, or creed…told me they cared about me, hugged me, and they were sorry about the violence caused by the brutal, systemic microaggressions and explicit bullying within our school. They let me speak my piece, and I let them speak theirs. Before the end of the class, we made a vow never to share anything that was spoken within that 3rd floor classroom. Rather than cutting people off, it was more to secure the sanctity of that environment. There was something sacred about that space and what happened.  Later, in my senior year of undergraduate, I worked as the communications intern for the AACC. I worked with Filipino-Americans, Indian-Americans, Sikh students, Muslim students, and best of all, our entire administrative staff was AAPI. For the first time in my entire life, I worked in an organization that was completely AAPI minority. I had professional staff who I didn’t have to explain where I came from or where my parents were from. They knew me. Through the AACC, I also participated in LeaderShape, a one-week campus-wide retreat that promoted intensified collaborative learning. The conference divided us into small groups consciously aimed to encourage intersectionality. Like Lessing’s class, we fought through racial stereotypes, in-group discrimination, and class differences. Through it, we realized how much more we cared about each other. How much we needed to be heard and how much we needed each other. I still think about Louie, Josie, EV, Destinee, Ellory, Elizabeth, Nate, and Natalie every single day. Further, we were asked to create visions to impact our campus and world. I have seen so many of my Leadershape classmates change their visions to realities, creating a more inclusive, inviting campus. Their contributions, wrought in violence and turmoil, were refined when unveiled to the larger community.

I am still grappling with the inequalities I see every day in this nation, on campus, and in myself. There is only one AAPI Heritage Month. There is only one Black Heritage Month. My old campus still has an unofficial, abusive mascot called “Chief Illiniwek” which promotes violence to indigenous students every. SINGLE. DAY. We still don’t talk about the Vietnam War civilian casualties or who killed Vincent Chen. Or, we talk about it and we ignore the real issues. Why are there so few minorities in our very own SED program? Where is the minority professional staff? Why do I still feel so invisible here? I only know that I want to not be silenced any more. I will cry, scream, shout, or whisper…but I will not be walked over any more. Maybe you won’t hear me. Maybe it isn’t my time yet…but I am too tired to not go on. These experiences have changed me. They have made me, violently or not, find my voice. In the novel Prep, an African American student said in regards to race, you have to make ripples and not waves. I am still trying to make my waves into ripples for this world.

Sins Unforeseen


An open letter to a campus church. Names have been changed and protected.

I’m lying awake tonight thinking of a particular moment, standing in front of a line of judges, speaking my truth. My poem has been workshopped to death, encouraged by Pastor S. and breathed life into, through chewed up pens and hope welling up like ink…I have worked on it through depressive episodes, wanting to talk about God and life and possibility…all to be laid asunder by M__, a sneer and a scoff at the ready. M__ is not a poetry expert. He has only watched Spoken Word on Youtube. M__ considers himself to be a purveyor of fine words. He is all crossed arms and peering over hipster frames. “Let me stop you right there.” M___ says, “Your poetry has no soul. It has no heart.”

I drove back to my apartment on the outskirts of campus in tears that night, followed by more sleepless nights filtered only by deepening sadness. He attacked the one identity I felt confident as, a writer, one that I was trying to merge with my relationship to God. I was not confident, but I trusted that pastor and those judges with what I valued the most–my heart on my sleeve, an offering of words. M__basically said, your offerings aren’t good enough here.

Sad to say, I never felt worthy in the confines of that place. I knew that the church was not a building, but a people…but how the church crumbled from the Cornerstone. We lied, gossiped, and cheated. One year, I was so fed up with feeling more like a stepping stone than part of the church, I slept my life away. Entire days and hours spent staring at popcorn ceilings, an internal scream bursting in my brain. What type of Christians were we all? I had “friends” who promised to be there all the time, only to blame the collapse of other friendships on me. I had leaders who preached one thing, only to exhibit another in their lives. How weary the heart grows, how inconstant people can be.

“Train your eyes on God. Fixate not on people, because people will always fail.” It’s true. In a church system divvied up by Harry Potter-esque houses, when even leaders exhibited bias and indifference based on house unity, it was difficult to want to be a part of ministry. Even more so when leaders thrust work on you they didn’t have time for, when people don’t even bother to call you…except to ask for a ride. Bitterness, a rancid, seeping stain, soaked through my faith. Nothing mattered.

Train your eyes upon the Lord. “This table is for pimps, prostitutes, sinners, and saints. God came not for the healthy, but for the sick.” I was so sick as an undergraduate. I was so sick, yet I kept ingesting poison. Avoid the other Christians that lead you astray, that gossip and say horrible things about each other. Keep accountable with God.

In church, I was called awkward and ungraceful. In church, I was called uncreative. Clumsy. Stupid. Untalented. I was led to believe I was a failure by freshman year. I was unclean. I didn’t belong. In church.

This is an open letter to super churches, the ones who motivate and inspire but also have a hidden layer of malice through their members. Take care of your flock, the marginalized and maimed. The ones spit on and stoned. The ones others call horrible names. The ones who are talked about. I am working on forgiving. I know God is just. I know He sees all. I believe He knows my pain. I do not need to react, but I do want to share. I have been wounded trying to make my way to prayers. I have been struck down in lock-ins and walking down hallways of prying eyes. I wanted so much to belong, only to feel completely left out. “Weirdo.” “Awkward.” “Sensitive.” “What’s wrong with you?” “Stop stumbling people.” Stop. Just stop. Stop treating people you are supposed to love like crap.

There is too much world in this bitter cup. I still carry the dregs of memory with me, M__. I have held onto them for so long. You were awful. You did not speak the truth in love, nor were you acting on behalf of a Christian organization. What you wanted to do was to protect a popular image at the expense of a young voice. You wanted me to be silent, to keep quiet, to just shut up already. But let me tell you. I have found my voice again. As God is my witness, I am not done speaking my heart.

We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned;struck down, but not destroyed. 10 We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. -2 Corinthians 4:8-10 ESV

Life in the Ivory Tower


Life at a top private university in the South isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. Sure, some aspects remain the same to my undergraduate public university experience–the endless papers, the engaging yet demanding professors, an over-representation of beige and grey interior decor..Other issues, I could do without.

As much as my undergraduate had a reputation as a party school, I never felt left out as a minority. With a large AAPI population, Asian American Cultural Center, and more student-led cultural clubs than you can count, my undergraduate life felt full of new experiences and a sense of safety. Here, not so much. Every criticism and condescension feels personal, a thousand pricks which increase incrementally in pain. Aside comments like, “Ugh, the people in this class” when I tweeted about being one of the only minority kids in the room in a #educolor chat. Belittling remarks about where to attend class when the location shifts every few weeks. Harsh, withering comments from a superior that felt quite personal, despite peers who performed equally on a task. It feels so alienating, even if faculty don’t “mean it.” Even if it’s “just part of their generation.” Even if “oh, you know, they’re just a little racist.” Enough is enough. The unsettling amount of microagressions plaguing both the student body and acting faculty disgusts me. How can anyone live with so much hate, so much disdain in upturned noses?

Grading here is fair, as are many of the faculty in terms of performance rating. However, the running commentary surrounding topics, from diversity education to representation, leaves me feeling exhausted. It’s exhausting being here as a minority graduate students. I feel like I have to act as an ambassador for not just my country, but an entire section of the globe….because THAT’S how white this campus is. Not to say I don’t have amazing conversations with my peers or that they’re ignorant. The students who are admitted here are articulate and culturally savvy. However, it pains me when I notice I’m one of the only ones who has lived experiences with personally directed racism. I’ve spent nights crying, wondering if I was targeted because of my race at work. Though I feel comfortable in my skin, I sometimes wonder what it would be like if I had gone to Columbia instead.

I’m sad here. One cannot survive on academics alone. I miss the AACC, Lunch On Us programs when controversial topics were discussed openly, I miss taking classes from faculty who knew exactly where I was coming from and who sometimes even came from a place like me. I miss a sense of lived cultural competency I’m not getting here. I miss not hearing behind-the-scenes talk of, “Oh, she’s a traditional Chinese applicant” and blatant ignorant comments like, “What do our Asian friends think?” as if we all thought the same thing. My anger has petered out into exhaustion.

I wish it was different. I wish my voice wasn’t seen as bizarre or “unique” or as just another “student of color.” I want to be heard, as a person. Please pass on the privilege and listen, really listen. I can’t be silent anymore.

Pressing Pause

Hello, blogosphere! Long time no talk.
Where in the world is Dulcet Denouement, eh?

After a bittersweet departure from Taiwan, I curled into the natural shape an introverted recluse reclaims after an intense, public year of service — onto the luxury of my old full-size bed and the decrepit couch in our living room. Yes, so much so that the confines of each took a gentle mold to my huddled form…(I might be exaggerating, just a little.)

Anyway, after recuperating with vast hoards of chocolate, ice cream, and massive quantities of hummus, I felt ready to tackle the world. After a year of subsisting on plain oatmeal and leftover refreshments from the counseling center in Luodong, it was nice to actually eat like a real-life human. Most of my days, I spent at home either shuttling my brother to soccer camp, manic-studying for my U.S. History test, or devoting myself to my kindred spirit, Netflix.

To be honest, I felt quite lonely those few months back home in the confines of my parent’s attic room. Forgotten, if I’m quite truthful with myself. My friends had all, of course, moved on with life since I left a year ago, and they didn’t really contact me during the week. Partially, I did get a new phone number, but very few back home made an effort to seek out my company or they were pursuing their own travels. Luckily, I left Chicago making at least one brief appearance at Fizz and eating with a few friends at various places. When you do something amazing like teach abroad for a year and come back to your ordinary life, it makes you feel a little overwhelmed. I was supremely difficult with my family, mostly because I felt so isolated from the world which was once so familiar to me.

Of course, my parents being the genuine and amazing people they are, decided to send us all off to Michigan in the middle of my ridiculous angst session. The dazzling sun and coastal winds managed to remind me just enough of Taiwan’s coast that I could let things go for a while. It helped that there was chocolate fudge gelato and cute puppies everywhere. The intuitive people that they are, my parents figured a short stay would help us all get out of our heads a bit.

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Between the murky waves, rusting lighthouses and perpetually starving seagulls, I remembered a little bit of what it was like to be independent again, wrestling my stubbornness between sunburns and sunsets. The holiday was far too short, but it reminded me how stir-crazy I can get in between places.

After Michigan, I was lucky enough to spend a short weekend in San Antonio with the boy. I took very few if any pictures, but despite the hours waiting at airports, it was nice to see such a lovely face after a month of solitude. It’s so nice doing even absolutely nothing with someone you love.

Visited the bae in San Antonio. #Riverwalk #SanAntonio #Texas #view #riverside

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Upon my trip back to Chicago, I met a few friends in our backyard–one a baby bunny and the other a stray kitten. The bunny I set free in our backyard, and the cat I nursed back to health with a few saucers of water and some Fancy Feast before she ran off one afternoon. Between those few encounters and some great hangouts with close friends, I moved away.


I’ve relocated to Nashville to further my studies as a soon-to-be English teacher. Besides posting excessively on Instagram about food and Yelp events, I have been trying out the local swing dance scene and adjusting slowly to life on another campus. It’s been a long road to post-Taiwan recovery, but I’m beginning to feel like I can be somebody again.

Here’s to rich lives, in spirit but not necessarily in pocket.


Taiwan Fulbright Blues

I finished off Fulbright Taiwan with my hilarious fifth graders dumping frigid cold water on me during our last field trip together. While I will cherish this particular memory and the many more I shared with my students, the grant turned out not all that I expected it to be. Big surprise? Initial culture shock aside, not really. What happened on this journey that promised glory, honor, and honest-to-God cultural exchange?

image via Emily’s Quotes.

Most days, I spent in an empty classroom whiling away the minutes in humidity that a tropical fish could swim in. Even with the time spent lesson planning and coordinating classroom management, many hours I mostly felt dazed, having done all I could for the few classes in the grade I taught. Of course, I also battled the seeming un-achievable standards set before me. Not only did I have to be better than every single ETA before me, any creative idea automatically warranted someone else’s credit.

To the bitter end, my co-workers continued to ask me if I actually spoke Chinese. That was, usually, their only question to me. I spent an entire 6th grade graduation luncheon in the middle of teachers laughing and talking, but clearly in their own clique. I’m not saying this is country-specific or even school-specific, but I am saying that I have never felt so isolated amongst so many. Lunches were a sad affair, whether sitting alone in the lounge or in the classroom. It was everything I could do not to weep at my desk during Thanksgiving or Christmas.

Fulbright isn’t for everybody, especially not for a college student used to being well-respected and liked in a classroom setting. I never realized how much I took my professor’s good faith in me for granted. Here I was with a competitive scholarship and my coworkers treated me like I was one of their students. As an Asian-American, many of the students and most of the teachers just saw me as an incompetent version of a local teacher…or a pseudo-American. I’m still not quite sure which version is worse, but when people do not even acknowledge you in the hallway or sit at a different table even after making eye contact with you…there’s something wrong with that. I thought I was a professional, but instead I ended up back in the hallowed halls of a suburban high school.

I am thankful to be among the lucky few to receive such a prestigious award, but I am certainly not going to sacrifice frankness for a politically correct generalization. Yes, I got to travel to amazing places, and I met students I continue to miss. An average day was hours of loneliness followed by the consoling arms of Netflix. Reality hurt like slamming your head into a wall repeatedly, which I felt like doing…repeatedly.

Of course, I learned quite a bit about myself and cultural exchange. I think that part of the deal was an honest promise. I was far too comfortable with certain “Americanisms,” and it was refreshing being pushed into the deep end for once. I realized I was a lot more ignorant than I thought, and my students had to work way harder than I did in elementary school. For once, nothing came naturally. Teaching kicked me into gear. Even with all the pain and the endless printing, it was amazing to see how excited kids got after a fun lesson. Was it worth the loneliness and the neglect? I don’t know.

I guess I’m just saying, if you’re preparing to go on Fulbright, know that many times, it’s going to be an unnerving, solo uphill battle. Many experiences will be offensive only to you as the minority. You might not know what to do or say at times. Maybe we need that in our lives though…the feeling of not being completely comfortable.

Maybe that’s the difference that changed me. For the better? I’m not sure, but I will tell you I will never make the mistake of not welcoming someone with a smile or a simple conversation. If it takes going halfway across the world to learn that, who am I to say it wasn’t worth it.

Big Kid in the Workplace

I have the tendency to act ridiculous when I am under pressure. Perhaps you find yourself in a likewise situation as a semi-spoiled twenty-something in the workplace. To save you from untold embarrassment and the onset of pre-mature burnout, I give your very own survival guide. Big kids need love too.

1. Conflict is necessary, but it doesn’t have to be hard. 

When I began working, I thought every crisis meant I had the right to make a fuss. Instead, this made me look all the more incompetent. Cursing, sulking, and throwing a tantrum just indicates someone who needs to mature as an individual. If I could talk to my intern self, I would encourage taking a break or  deep breath. Will the world end if your supervisor gives you another task on top of your already daunting list? Probably? While that may be true, it is also true that you can ask for more time. You can even ask for help. Yelling at you superior causes everyone to only be that much more grumpy.

2. Don’t lose your sense of humor.

Many problems begin in life when you forget to laugh at yourself and your situation once in a while. Remember, one day this seemingly dreary job will be a great story. Having purpose and drive requires an underbelly of lightheartedness. We have, at most, a hundred years to leave an imprint. Don’t let other people’s negativity or commitment to stagnant teaching stifle your creative spirit. Why not smile along the way? There are some days when we are in a funk. The creative find ways to make funk into funky. Sure, “funky” isn’t pleasant, but it does sound fun.

3. You’re not alone.

This one is important. In this cyber age where media convinces us someone else is doing our job better, it is so easy to feel worthless. Perhaps your boss has told you you are incompetent, lackluster, plain. This is simply not true. Don’t hide under your desk or a pile of empty junk food wrappers (however tempting that may be). While there are moments when people commit worthless acts, a person is full of soul. Yes, you are a soul in a big world full of so many others. You have something to contribute, no matter what other people think. Loneliness plagues us when someone else denies us the right to live out loud, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t. Someone out there is supporting you, whether it be a parent, pastor, friend or sibling. Even if you feel like the whole world is against you, I believe God is for you. Know that wherever you go, doors open for those with open hearts.

4. Mistakes don’t mean you’re dumb.

Working in a prestigious organization in an Asian country, I sometimes feel overwhelmed by the pressure to perform. When I make a mistake, I try to remind myself that I recognize it as a misstep. Hey, I learned something new and different. That’s something to celebrate, not something to condemn. Some of the best lessons come from happy errors. It’s all how you interpret a challenge. Try to look past grading scales on your own life. Instead, aim for inspiration. How can I learn from this? What has this taught me?

5. Speak the truth in love.

When I was young, I thought Miss Bossypants was the way to go. That bled a bit into my tottering first steps as a teacher. “Don’t do that, don’t do this, don’t, no, no, no.” The more I restricted, the more my students saw me as a negative person. With some great but hard to hear advice, I realized I had to let in the sunshine and let go. Some of the best teaching is trusting that your students are capable of the best. Like the story of the sun and the wind competing to get a man to take off his coat, warmth always wins against harsh elements. When I began encouraging my students and praising their different learning styles, life felt a bit brighter for us all. Being a drill sergeant is not teaching. Teaching means humbling yourself, stepping down from the lectern, and letting students speak up.

I went into this year thinking I could jump into teaching with no qualms. I thought I would be extraordinary. That, of course, is not true. I believe great teachers persevere through years and years, committing to innovation each day. Great teaching also means humility, to forget about any sense of entitlement. It makes students feel important and helps them know they are somebody.

I hope you never stop being the big kid at the workplace. Regardless of your position or what others think of you, I hope you exemplify big character. As souls who strive, we need to be more courageous and less obedient to our fear.

Best and Blessings,


Contact or Colonization?

When I took American Literature 255 in college, the professor focused on the power struggle between those with it and without. By naming someone else’s homeland and even re-naming people, colonizers prevented the colonized from speaking up for themselves. All familiar places and things suddenly fall into strange syllables on the lips of strangers. Today, I suppose we refer to this phenomenon as “Columbusing.” One with power or privilege steals more from those without, a sort of inverted, perverse Robin Hood. He steals from the poor to give to the rich.

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If we’re not careful, this is what ESL becomes sometimes. We sub in thoughtful names with meaning and heritage, parceling out lame, paper-thin “American” adaptations. Cheng-Yu becomes Alan, Wan-Ting becomes Sarah. Did we think about this a long time? Is there purpose to our decisions? Not really. What it is is appropriation. Alan and Sara are probably easier for native English teachers to say, but I’m not sure the change does that much for a student.

As my parents also gave me an assimilated English name, I don’t advise it. Growing up, I dreaded hearing roll call. Teachers could never pronounce my name correctly, heaving a sigh of relief when I provided the substitute “Sherry.” Maybe a chuckle followed. Once, a high school teacher even said, “Well, that makes a lot of sense,” while arching her eyebrow. I hated it. I remember crying about my given name, wondering how I could permanently erase it. Really, it was a way to hate myself and my ethnicity.

I hate that we’re doing this to kids. Despise it. Re-naming them, molding them into an ideal standard of our own making. “You don’t have an English name? Oh, let me give you one now before the world explodes.” Language learning caters to the speaker. Language is not static, but the way we prescribe it causes most to think language festers. Instead, words should grow, morph and turn into new things depending on where they’re planted.

Words can fuel a revolution or make us feel like gutter water depending on how we use them. Naming. Naming is an offshoot of that. Perhaps instead of naming children hastily, we can research what their names mean and give them a few options. A student needs to have the freedom to grow and understand language, especially their names.

I don’t understand the rigidity. I don’t understand the strict rules or the need to maintain order.

Perhaps I really am better suited to literature rather than language learning. Perhaps they really are different fields.